“I Will Remember You!”

The time was 8:35am! He’d arrived home after a long night on the graveyard shift. Tired and blurry-eyed he slides beneath the cool sheets and covers of his bed and rests his head upon his pillow. Gathering in the comfort as if he were sipping a fine wine the phone rings. He smiles, softly chuckles, and then answers the phone by saying “Calling to tuck me in?”

While some calls right before bed wouldh never had been answered, he did not mind her phone calls right before his going to sleep. The soothing sound of her voice was better than any sleep aid. Each vowel, each consonant, every verb and noun was wrapped with a warm and sensuous smile.

He knew she cared because she was calling to leave with him a little bit of her heart with which he could cherish like the warm hug a teddy bear provides or the gentle kiss a mother shares. With that said, her answer to his question was “Yes, I called to tuck you in!”

Hello…Welcome back to another opportunity to illuminate Five Habits Women Want from Their Men. I decided to repost this because it just felt right reading it again.  So, I beg your pardon as I  make and effort to begin to remember the challenge of love.

There was this blog I recently found, written by a guy, is another point of view on how Perfect Women and Men can love each other by knowing how love works.

The day prior to this post, April 27th, we explored the value of showing some appreciation for a woman through genuine signs of acceptance through compliments. We revealed how giving a compliment means being attentive to the woman (or man) who just may be making efforts to listen how the other is expressing their love. We tried to disolve some of the illusions of love, like being affectionate to soften a spouse up for abuse. In the end, we wanted to communicate what he says she says is important only when what she says he says has something to do with each person yearning to learn something great about the love they share.

So, with that said , according to the blog in question, the #2 Habit Women Want from Their Men is….

2. Receiving Text Messages/Calling Her

There are thousands of words and images floating about my head right now. The first word that comes to mind for me when I read #2 was “Remember.” It was then when the lyrics to the Sarah Mclachlan song “I will Remember You!” rises to the occasion.

“I will remember you….Will you remember me? Don’t let your life pass you by weep not for the memories”

Remembering, holding dear, keeping in mind, and always thinking about something or someone are clear signs of interest, intention to love, commitment to a relationship becoming, and/or a desire to share those unseen experiences when the other is not present for some measure of reason and/or time.

“Remember the good times that we had? I let them slip away from us when things got bad; how clearly I first saw you smilin’ in the sun. I Wanna feel your warmth upon me, I wanna be the one.”

On the other hand, forgetting, losing focus, keeping out of mind and sight, and always find a place to be are clear signs of disinterest, distraction, disdain, and/or simple disrespect. Forgetful moments can hit us at the most unfortunate of times when loving another by keeping in touch is valuable and purposeful. Sometimes we willfully do forget. While there are other times, because we were clueless about how love and intimacy works, we “let a good thing get away.” Such experiences only accent the saying, “you never know how much you had until you’ve lost it.”

“I”m so afraid to love you, but more afraid to loose
Clinging to a past that doesn’t let me choose
Once there was a darkness, deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me light.”

What has all this to do with leaving a simple text message or a sticky-note “I love you” on the mirror for you loved one?

Plenty!

As couples seeking to love deeper and with a genuine passion, the daily grind and rhythm of life pulls and strains on a relationship. It is very easy to fall into a pattern of living single while being married. The sticky note may weigh little less than an ounce, but, it can provide the force of a cruise ship’s anchor for a relationship.

There was a time, as teacher of seventh and eighth graders where I would tell them to walk away from my classes with three words in tow. Begin, Remember, Challenge.

Why BEGIN? If we are to begin anything, start anything, participate in anything we must first WANT, truly WANT to begin doing what we will to do to make the moment a worthwhile adventure or memory. If you leave the house for the grocery store looking for an ice cream sandwich there will be all kinds of distractions along your way to not get what it is for which you first began the journey.

Why REMEMBER? Well, if we truly and deeply feel passionate about that which we first started the journey, remembering that for which we search is our passion, our life, our choice to live the life we have longed to live. REpeating into MEMory makes the path we’ve choosen an EMBER that burns hot in our life. A loss of focus will not completely saddle you with pain, but, it can deter you from appreciating your passion, your love in some uncomfortable ways.

Why CHALLENGE? The challenge to remaining focused on a genuine love you will to enjoy is in refusing to allow the past to affect that for which you search; a passionate love which produces endless streams of happiness and energy. The past is full of honest mistakes and clever convoluted traps into which everybody loves to hide from a love they would want to experience but (for whatever reason buried in the past) are simply too affraid to experience.

So, it is very important to begin everyday remembering the challenge of love; Love is first personal, then rewarding, and consistently yours for all the time in which you will to explore its enormous wealth and sense of security. Where and in what timeframe you choose to explore such is TOTALLY up to you.

This is why that sticky note on the mirror is more than just a note. That sticky note says to the woman you love (guys!)….”Someone is listening and values the way I choose to express and show my love!” It answers the question and doubts crazy lifestyles create. It tells the one with whom you have choosen to love as a life partner “I will remember you…because you have remembered me.”